That Girl

We’ll always be searching for that if we don’t stop and learn to love this…

We spend our lives trying to be something. Everyone wants to be a different something but we all work day in and day out to be that something– to be that teacher that everyone loves, to be the preacher that brings everyone to God, to be the most popular person in school, to be the CEO of the best firm, to be the hot mom that everyone wants to be, to be the best football player in the state, to be the best server at the best restaurant…the list goes on. 

Unless you’re Beyonce, someone will always be better. How discouraging is that? You will NEVER be good enough. That’s what I’ve always lived by, and I think the majority of the world is right there with me. No matter how great I am, I could always be better. I could always act better, look better, weigh less, have prettier skin, have better clothes, make a better grade, and just be a better person.

I’ve just always wanted to be “that girl” — that girl that everyone loves, that girl that every guys wants to date and every girl wants to be, that girl that is always kind even when it’s hard, that girl that has the prettiest figure and hair and eyes and skin etc., that girl that has it so easy all the time, that girl that no one every says a bad word about, that girl that’s friends with everyone, that girl that wakes up looking like a model, that girl that’s so mysterious that everyone wants to find out more about her, that girl that shows her love for God and others at all times, that girl that shows confidence and humility at the same time, that girl that doesn’t care what anyone thinks because she loves every detail of her life in its entirety. 

That is a long list of requirements to be “that girl.” I’ve realized that every single person has a different list. Every single person has a different “that” that they wish they were. Everyone wants something they don’t have simply because it’s different. Everyone has flaws they dwell on and inner turmoil they deal with. That makes us all the same. And isn’t that beautiful?

We think we’ll never be good enough, but the good news is we never have to be because there is no such thing as “good enough.” 

There will always be someone that is “that” to us  no matter where we are in life. It has been a constant since pre-school and it will always remain so. The best we can do is embrace “that” and find “that” in everyone we meet. To find a “that” characteristic in everyone that crosses your path helps you grow and improve and helps you find beauty in everyone and everything. 

There are people you will meet that break you down and make you wish you were anyone but you. Those people are running the hardest from who they are. They most likely think of you as “that” and want to pick you apart to find that you really aren’t all that great. Those are the people that need the most love from you, and that will grow you more than anything in the world ever could. 

At the end of the day, there is no such thing as “that girl” or “that guy.” The girl that seems to have it all most likely does not and even the perfect couple has their fights. Even the people that really have it together wish they were a little better. If you’re quiet, you wish you were louder, and if you’re loud, you wish you were quiet, but God dispersed the outgoing and the introverted evenly throughout the world on purpose. Embrace your personality and the way you look because there is no one else in the world that can compare. So, it’s really a waste to wish to be someone else because it can absolutely never happen. 

I’m writing this as much for myself as I am for anyone that reads it. It’s exhausting to try to fight the person God intended you to be. He intended you to be exactly how you are and THAT is all that. 

We have to stop searching for that and learn to love this because this is always the best it will ever be and that’s something to celebrate daily.