To The Girl Who’s Tired Of Waiting

Do you ever just look at someone, watch them while they’re doing such a simple task and just smile. They have no idea anyone is looking at them and that’s what makes them all the more lovable because they’re totally unaware of your fascination – they’re just really being themselves?

I find myself doing that all the time. I’ll just watch my boyfriend taking notes in church or folding his laundry or just watching a movie – he never has any idea I’m stealing a glimpse and it makes him even more adorable. My heart flutters every single time I catch him being so him.

I never imagined myself saying that about anyone. I had hoped I would. I wanted to be in love, but I really didn’t think there was any way I’d be so in love with someone who reciprocated all the same feelings.

I feel like I spent years just longing for someone to love me. It brought me to tears so often. I told God I was being patient and waiting on the right guy, but I wasn’t being patient or waiting at all.

I was complaining when I didn’t have someone, and when I did, it wasn’t healthy or the right timing or the right person – it never felt like love.

Being a teenager, being a 20-something, being 30 (the list goes on) and trying to find our “soulmate” is the object of the game, huh? It’s what we really long for at the end of every day. Someone to cuddle with, someone to eat takeout with, and someone to just be with.

We get to a point where we will take what we can get.

I’m here to tell you to keep waiting. When you think you can’t, just wait one more day. And then the next. And the next. Something great will happen. You’ll stop waiting and you’ll just start being.

And when you can finally just be, he will come.

He won’t be what or who you expect and he won’t come when you expect him to. I know you’ve heard that a million times, but I pinky promise it’s true.

I wish I would have taken this advice. I really wish I would have.

It finally hit me that I desperately NEEDED to be alone to learn how to deal with myself before anyone else in the world would ever want to deal with me.

That doesn’t mean it’s ever easy to deal with me, and for a long time I thought that made me unlovable. I felt so hard to love.

And then someone fell in love with me when I wasn’t even looking. I was just being me. He was stealing glimpses while I was effortlessly being myself. I didn’t have to try. I was no longer hard to love at all.

I am certainly hard for him to deal with, but I know without a shadow of a doubt, loving me is his favorite thing to do and the easiest part of his day.

He came out of nowhere and I wasn’t looking for him at all. I had been single for almost two years and was so happy being alone. But God knew my heart was getting a little restless and was ready for someone to finally love me the way He intended everyone to be loved.

And when a man finally pursued me with the right intentions, things fell together.

At first, I absolutely did not want a boyfriend and thought he was very nice but wanted no part of being in a romantic relationship with him.

I thought he was fun and we’d go on a few dates and that would be it.

That wasn’t it at all. And God was laughing hysterically at my thought process.

He wasn’t who I thought I had been looking for. So I prayed for some guidance and basically was like, “Hey God if you want me to date this boy, you better show me why because I really thought I was supposed to be alone for a few more minutes or years.”

And God said, “You got it.”

I started falling more in love with Jesus while I was falling in love with him at the same time, and that’s how I knew.

I didn’t care what we had in common as long as we were both in it to further God’s kingdom together. And with every cute date and kind gesture, I saw more and more of his desire to live out God’s plan for his life. And boy was that attractive.

I have always been pretty open to the world about my love life. I’ve written about it, I’ve talked about it, and I’ve joked about it for years. My dating life has really reflected a romantic comedy (an emphasis on the comedy part) and I think the universe was silently cheering for me to finally catch a good one.

I have had so many girls genuinely tell me how happy they are for me and tell me how much they wanted what I have with my boyfriend. Every time I talk about him or tell the story of how we met, girls are brought to tears.

That’s when I want to grab them and say, “Wait.”

A good man, the right man, is more than worth the wait. Girls, LISTEN – PLEASE do not settle for someone just because you are bored or lonely. That guy can’t ever make you the happiest you were made to be, and you can’t love him the right way either. If you don’t wait for the person God made for you, you’ll end up with SOMEONE ELSE’S PERSON. That is no fun.

When you’re with YOUR person, you know he’s your person. You can see it in his eyes and feel it in every single embrace. It’s a beautiful, moving, soul-shaking feeling. It’s what we dream about starting at age 5, ladies. Do you want to settle for the so-so feeling or wait it out and get the butterflies, the really big butterflies, every single day?

I get them every day. And it’s because I FINALLY waited. I stopped searching and I let the magic happen. God saw my authentic patience finally coming through and that’s when he winked, nodded, and sent a real life prince charming my way with no strings attached.

Real love isn’t fancy dates and expensive gifts – it’s a feeling you’ll never be able to explain to a single person. And you’ll know when it’s real. It is the greatest feeling in the entire world because it comes straight from the God who is love. It’s his number one greatest gift to us.

Gosh, I love love. And I love seeing people in love. I want everyone to get to be in love with someone! I really do.

So I am begging and pleading and crying out for you to wait patiently and then just hide and watch what happens. It might not happen next week or even next year, but it will most certainly happen at the perfect time.

Before you know it, when you are content, some guy you never would’ve expected to love or to love you will finally get the courage, after months of being nervous, to ask you to go fishing. And then, well… here we are.

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26 thoughts on “To The Girl Who’s Tired Of Waiting

  1. Let me tell you sister God saved the best for you. You got the kindest and sweetest young man I know. And he coaches a mean game of baseball too. I love your article with such good advice. I married my husband when he was thirty-five and I was thirty-
    three. God abdolutely saved the best for me!!!

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  2. This is truly the best thing I have ever read and I really needed this. Thank you for sharing this, you never know how it can impact someone else. God is using you to help build someone else. This was perfect and I’m so glad I found this. Thank you! ❤️

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  3. I truly needed this, thank you so much for taking the time to write this article and share it with people like me. God is using your thoughts and words to share with others. I truly appreciate this and so thankful for this post! ❤️

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  4. This melted my heart. I lost my husband in May2015 to suicide. Our first day was him taking me fishing, we were so in love. We made a beautiful family and his legacy forever learns. It’s been nearly 9 months and I’m at peace finally. I’m going on 27 and while, I know God has someone so beautiful planned to love me and our 3 children, I’m content where I am. God has something pure and of His own timing prepared for me, that my dear is worth the wait.

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    • I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for your kind words. I hope mine helped you and I am praying for healing and just pure joy for you and your beautiful family.

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  5. This article came up on my Newsfeed at just the right time. After ending a long relationship with someone, I have been so ready to be loved by the right person. It has been such a struggle and caused so much heartbreak because I just kept settling. Last week actually, I decided enough was enough. It was past time for me to give it to the Lord. Here I am, practically in tears reading this in my class (shame on me for not paying attention). Everything you have said are things that I have told myself over and over again. I am so inspired by your story. Anything that I would plan will be so much worse than what God has in store. Waiting is definitely worth it. Thanks for sharing and being vulnerable…not enough people are today.

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  6. Thankz for that, thank you! A lot of girls are right now in the position that you use to be, so in the name of All of us i wanna said thankz for share your experience with us💕

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  7. Thank you for sharing your story and encouraging women to WAIT! I am a freshman in college and am constantly wondering when I will finally find a guy. All of my friends around me will be getting Valentine’s gifts from their boyfriends this upcoming February, and then there will be me. Waiting is a hard thing to do, but I am going to trust that God will place the right man in my life at the right time. This was probably the best article I have read! Thank you!

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  8. This is something I definitely needed to read today. Thank you so much for sharing and renewing my faith and hope in waiting on the right guy to come along!

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  9. This is so beautiful. Thanks for sharing your story and instilling hope. It’s a frustrating journey. Many times you just want someone, anyone because you’re absolutely bored to death. I know without a doubt you are right. It’s just a lot easier said than done. I’m going to do it. I have to do it. Everything I’ve tried up to this point has not worked. Many blessings to you both.

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  10. In this post you mentioned that the story of how you and your significant other met “brings girls to tears”. Will you please consider posting that story? I am a sucker for those things! All the best!

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  11. I SO needed to hear this testimony. I’ve been tempted to give in and just date a guy so I can say I’m in a relationship or get married soon. But I know that would be selfish. I want to believe that there is a man that I can love with all my heart for all of those little things that he does and even through his imperfections. Thank you so much for sharing this. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU! I will wait for my man!

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  12. Excellent! Happy for you! Great, true advice! I married young and am a widow after 40 years of marriage. I am terribly lonely, but I want God’s timing, His man, and His will, even if it means no man, I’ll thank Him! He knows best! Loved your article.

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  13. Yeah right im only 39.i had endless relationship where been cheated on and no man wants to commit to me.i now have a boyfriend of a month.i dont trust no man.so im extremely scared always being cheated on..i have 3 kids.my faith for god is strong..but my faith for man is not.i also help my new boyfriend with finances..im pretty much lost and believe true love not for me.i been single for 2 yrs..started online website.that where i found my new boyfriend

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  14. I want to genuinely thank you for this article. It’s more than what I needed to hear and gives me hope to keep pushing. A man of God would be a dream come true❤️

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  15. Thank you much for bearing your heart for others to see, it is so refreshing. Also, this is absolutely where I am in life and it is so nice to see there are others waiting for The One♡ I pray you all receive everything great and good God has planned for you!!

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